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Cecile Vargo
04-07-2005, 01:11 AM
I know this is a dog forum, but I believe we are all animal lovers, and I need to share my grief with others who understand. We had to put our longhaired white cat Missy to sleep this evening. It's been one thing after the other with her, and we had good days, and bad. All the tests and x-rays couldn't find anything wrong with her, we just did our best to treat whatever symptoms came up from one week to the next, and keep her comfortable and happy. But today she started gasping for breath and I had to rush her in to the emergency, in fact twice on the drive to the vets I thought she died, but she'd rise up again. They put her in an oxygen cage until Roger could get in from Woodland Hills - the longest 45 minutes I've ever had to wait - then we decided it best to put her down. She had a difficult time of it, even after they gave her the first shot to relax her and put her to sleep before euthanizing her. Thank goodness Roger was even in town! He's leaving for Sacramento early in the morning and I don't know how I could have gone through this without him. He would have regretted not being here, too. The cats are his babies, so it's really good he was here.

Missy was with us for almost exactly 5 years. She was a scraggly stray that we figured was about 2 years old when we found her or I should say when she found us. She lived under our birdbath when the weather was nice, or snuck in our garage when the weather was bad. She would get in my neighbors back yard and kill his goldfish, and I was afraid he was going to shoot her, so we finally took her inside to be apart of our family. She wanted to be a part of our family so badly, she would get on top of our old Blazer in the driveway so she could peer in the kitchen window and make us feel guilty that she was out there. Once I took her in and she had something more than birds and gold fish to eat, she became the beautiful long haired white cat she deserved to be. Not long after I took her in, we realized she had a brother or sister still running around out there that looked exactly like her.
But he was much more skiddish than she was. I used to see him kind of beat up around the neighborhood, but can't remember when I last saw him, and don't know what happened to him. Missy, however, became a cinderella story, and she was like a princess, with a comfy home and family to love her and spoil her rotten. She will sorely be missed.

My two tabby boys, Clarence & Quincy are walking around kind of lost without Missy. So it looks like I'll be spending a lot of time babying them, particularly when Roger is gone over the next few days. The dogs know we are upset, but I don't know if they realize Missy is gone or not, as she usually hid when I brought them in. Although the last two weeks she stood her ground, even when she didn't feel well, and didn't even let Maggie's big rambunctious presence bother her.

So it's sad around here tonight, and going to be a hard weekend with Roger gone, hard for him not to be here, and hard for me not to have him here, but I know that Missy is in a better place, and finally at peace. My first cats lived to be 19, so it's hard to understand when something like this happens to a cat so young. She seemed to come to us under mysterious circumstances, and leave just as mysteriously, in an all too short 5 years.
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Cecile

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Lauren Frisbie
04-07-2005, 02:11 AM
I am so sorry Cecile. I have never lost a pet, so I can only imagine how you must feel. I'm sitting here crying for you, your family, and for Missy. However she had a good life thanks to you and is in an even better place and that comforts me some. Just know that you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. My heart goes out to you at this difficult time, Lauren

Clair Taberner
04-07-2005, 04:16 AM
my heart goes out to you. i had to make the decision with my cat murf. he was around 12 we think as i got him when he was approx 6 when i got him as a rescue. i still miss him curling round my head at night sometimes. it's heartbreaking losing a loved pet, they r more than just a pet after all. keep well cecile. thinking of you x

Cecile Vargo
04-07-2005, 10:57 AM
Thank you for your kind words! We've had 5 dogs and 8 cats in over 30 years, and I've been through this more times than I want to think about. It never gets easy. This was particularly hard because we couldn't figure out what was wrong with her, and she was relatively young. But I know that the short 5 years Missy had with us was a lot better than she would have had if we had left her to roam the neighborhood. In fact the only thing that we were able to find when when had x-rays done was that someone had shot her with a bbgun in those first years of her life, and the pellet was still in her hip. And that made me even happier that we had rescued her.

My oldest dog is 13, and I have prepared myself for his last days as best I can, although thankfully, he's doing quite well for an old man. I just never imagined that I'd be saying goodbye to Missy before Jake went.

Stefie C
04-07-2005, 11:20 AM
Cecile, I am so sorry to hear about your Missy. How wonderful though, that you were able to rescue her. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing you made her last 5 years a joy instead of a struggle.

Hee Yung Lee
04-07-2005, 01:09 PM
I am also very sorry to hear of your loss. You gave her a wonderful life though, and she was able to die surrounded by people who love her and cared for her.

On a side note, I can't believe they found pellets from a bb gun in her hip. My gosh, poor little thing. I just don't understand how people can be so cruel to animals. It was such a good thing she found you when she did.

Jesse Cruz
04-07-2005, 01:15 PM
chloe, bailey and i send you and your family our condolenses. we are so sorry that you had to make this decision. as mentioned by others, you gave her a loving home and i'm sure she passed knowing that.

Cecile Vargo
04-07-2005, 01:57 PM
Thanks to all of you! Missy was the second stray we took in. We had another cat years ago, that came in and lived with us. She was a bit demented, but somehow lived 10years in our home - and all 10 of them were on our kitchen stove. We didn't cook much because our lives were so busy, so when Samantha sought out the stove we took the wood top from an old portable dishwasher and puton top of the stove so she wouldn't get the stove dirty and she wouldn't burn herself on the gas burner pilots. After a few years when she started having weird problems, her x-rays showed she had a bb in her also. So even though we have lots of animal lovers in our neighborhood, somebody doesn't like stray cats around here. Samantha's problems were related to her that bb, but Missy's weren't. I don't know what's wrong with people!!!

I also have to tell you, I hope you have as a kind a pet hospital as I do. My pet hospital is so sweet! The florist just deliverd a note and a plant, which I put on the carpeted window cat perch where Missy could watch the birds at the birdbath she used to live under. We've been with the place for over 30 years, even my childhood dogs went there, so that means over 40 years. Yesterday the newest vet, a young woman who barely looks out of college, was the only one there, and she did a beautiful job through a trying time. She let me stay in the examining room until Roger could get there 45 minutes later. Meantime, she took patients in the other two examining rooms, and kept an eye on Missy in the oxygen cage, popped her head in on me once in awhile. After Roger got there we discussed things, then she left us alone to decide what to do, and said she had another euthansthia to attend to. Before that, while I was nervously waiting for Roger, I swear I heard the people in the room next to me crying, so she was probably putting an animal down then, too. I don't envy her the job she has. A friend of mine is the receptionist there, although she was off when I got there yesterday. - I had thought about that job, but now I don't know if I could go through the day to day trauma. All of this yesterday happened at closing time, and young Dr. Dionne was perfectly willing to stay long after hours so we could spend as much last time with Missy as we wanted to. We didn't linger, but appreciated the offer.
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Luciann
04-07-2005, 04:28 PM
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I have been through it before and i know how hard it is.

Andre Mendizabal
04-07-2005, 05:19 PM
Dear Cecile, I'm so sorry about your loss... its hard to give up on a friend, specially one with such an amazing story!!!! But be sure that Missy died happy, loved and well-taken care of... you did a great job with her and she surely appreciated that!!! now she's in kitty heaven eating tuna and relaxing in a big comfy bed!!!! We all are thinking of you and send you and Roger a huge doggie-human hug!!!! to your dogs and cats too, of course!!!

babyblue
04-07-2005, 06:29 PM
Cecile, I am soo sorry and my thoughts are with you.
I know you gave Missy a wonderful life for 5 years. I know it's hard, but just remember that you gave her a loving, warm place to live and eat and be pampered. I wish I could say something that would make everything all better, but I know I can't. All I can say is that your a great, caring person and you did everything you could for Missy. Letting her go was probably the right decision. Now she is in a better place. Try and stay positive and just remember your other animals need you. They can comfort you.
I'm sorry this happened.
Me and Lucas will have a moment of silence in memory of Missy.

Krista Winegardener
04-07-2005, 10:31 PM
My heart goes out to you and yours,Cecile.Missy sounds so beautiful and so lucky to have found you.We've had many cats over the years,every single one of them 'strays' and some of them with health problems which meant they couldn't stay with us as long as we would have liked.Sickness doesn't make the decision to set them free any easier,I know.

I understand what you're going through more than words can say.Please know that you're in my thoughts and I've said a prayer for Missy.

Justine Archuleta
04-08-2005, 05:50 PM
Cecile,
I know how you feel. We had to put my best friend to sleep because of cancer. His name was Bugsy and we had him since I was 1 year old. We put him to sleep last August. I could not stand being without a dog so thats when we adopted Blackie about 1 to 2 weeks later.
I just wanted to say I am proud of you for doing the right thing and putting Missy down. I always feel sad because I think we waited to long to put Bugsy down. He had a tumor on the side of his neck, so we got it removed but it came back twice. I am very sorry and I hope Missy will watch over you for a couple of days.